“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
Over his lifetime, Dr. Stephen Covey inspired millions with the power of universal principles. As he traveled the globe many times over, his message was a simple one: for true success and meaning in life, we must be principle-centered in all areas of life. A teacher at heart, he often taught: “there are three constants in life: change, choice and principles.”
Below are 21 powerful ideas by Dr. Stephen Covey that will help you having an awesome day.
1. The difference between people who exercise initiative and those who don’t is literally the difference between night and day. – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, page 76
2″…when we exercise, rest, and eat properly, we retain our mental focus and toughness, as well as our thirst for learning.” -The 8th Habit, p. 337
3. We can only free ourselves to work on first things first as we let go of other things and focus our time and effort on the most important. Begin today with the image, picture, or paradigm of the end of your life as your frame of reference or the criterion by which everything else is examined. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
4. Keeping a journal of our thoughts, experiences, insights, and learnings promotes mental clarity, exactness and context. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
5. Third Alternative solutions-whether they be in substance, in spirit, or simply in achieving mutual respect and understanding without any agreement at all-are illustrations of transformation. That is, people have been changed, they have become more open in their hearts and minds, they have learned and listened, they see things in new, fresh ways-they have been transformed.” Reactive language becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
6. Through imagination, we can visualize the uncreated worlds of potential that lie -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
7. . To say “yes” to important priorities, you have to learn to say “no” to other activities, sometimes apparently urgent things. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
8. Begin today with the image, picture, or paradigm of the end of your life as your frame of reference or the criterion by which everything else is examined. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
9. In relationships, the little things are the big things. “It is essential to know yourself before you decide what work you want to do.” -The 8th Habit, pg.76
10. Becoming principle-centered is not always easy, but it does create quality-of-life Trustworthiness is more than integrity; it also connotes competence. -Principle-Centered Leadership, pg. 17
11. Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things . . . I am tempted to think . . . there are no little things. Although influenced by, you are not a product of nature and nurture. You are a product of your choices.
-The 8th Habit, pg. 268
12. “When you have a team of people that builds on each individual’s strengths and organizes to make individual weaknesses irrelevant, you have true power in an -The 8th Habit, pg. 127
13. Becoming principle-centered is not always easy, but it does create quality-of-life. We are not our feelings. We are not our moods. We are not even our thoughts. We are a product of our commitments. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
14. It is essential to know yourself before you decide what work you want to do. -The 8th Habit, pg. 76
15. Proactive behavior is a product of conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of conditions or feelings. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
16. Voice is unique personal significance-significance that is revealed as we face out greatest challenges and which makes us equal to them. If we want to change a situation, we first have to change ourselves. And to change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
17. Effective people are not problem-minded; they’re opportunity-minded. “Anything less than a conscious commitment to the important is an unconscious commitment to the unimportant.” -From: First Things First, p.32
18. Passion is the fire, enthusiasm and courage that an individual feels when she is doing something she loves while accomplishing worthy ends, something that satisfies her deepest needs. -The 8th Habit Page 253-254
19. The great contributors in life are those who, though afraid of the knock at the door, still answer it.” -The 8th Habit, pg. 76
20. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be part of the solution, not part -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
21. We are the instruments of our own performance, and to be effective, we need to recognize the importance of taking time to regularly “sharpen the saw” in the body, heart, mind and spirit. -Dr. Stephen R. Covey
Please share your ideas or quotes that you have learned from Dr. Stephen Covey below. Thank you
There are many things in life which take up way too much of our time than they really should, and at the same time get on our nerves. Fortunately, in some cases there are ways to avoid all the hassle.
In this post, we present you with 10 ways to make some of the things we do every day a little bit easier.
Drinking coke through a straw
Put a straw through the hole in the pull-tab of the can, and your coke will no longer leak out over the top.
Making the perfect fried egg
You can make a perfectly round fried egg without buying any special appliances or gadgets — all you need to do is to cut a ring from an onion and place it inside.
Joining wires together
To make sure electrical wires don’t get pulled apart when stretched, tie a small knot at the point where you connect them together.
Peeling garlic
Put the bulb of garlic in a jar and screw on the lid. Imagine you’re a bartender, and give it a good shake!
Doing a manicure
Follow the steps in the diagram above to get neatly painted nails.
Refrigerating a drink quickly
To refrigerate a drink quickly, wrap it up in a damp paper towel and put it in the refrigerator. It’ll be nice and cool in just 15 minutes!
Tying shoe laces
This method was worked out by Ayana Fieggen. Now, your shoe laces will never come undone — unless, of course, you undo them yourself!
Making an ice-cream sandwich
Cut through the tub with the ice cream still inside, place the chunk on a cookie, and cover with another cookie. Voila!
Opening plastic packaging
Hard plastic packaging can be difficult to open even with scissors. Instead, use a can opener, and it’ll be a whole lot easier.
Folding a t-shirt like a boss
Simply follow the instructions above. It’s really easy and quick to do!
This story is going to burn more bridges than it built.
So,
India's first underwater wedding just happened in Kerala and the images
are super cute. The idea of proposing someone underwater has been quite
prevalent in the west, but this is India's first official entry in the
list.
The words "I love you" cannot express their deep meaning. Though the message they send can be reassuring, the emotion, the longing, the thrill, and the passion it comes with, goes far beyond words.
Expressing one’s feelings is neither easy, nor accurate in most of the cases. Feelings can be overwhelming, indecipherable, changing and confusing.
They can be of many kinds — both positive and negative — but one is always lingering in your partner’s heart... yes, it is the overwhelming love for you — the driving force that keeps him around you when you’re happy or sad, when you’re healthy or ill, when you’re up or down...
And when the roles reverse and your partner is the one that’s sad or ill or down, you’re still there in his heart, the best place you could ever be in.
And yes, your partner wants you to know that even when you fight and are angry at each other. Arguments and fights happen only because both of you CARE. If no one cared, no one would ever fight.
2. They want to come first
Life comes with a full to-do list and many variables. You have to make time for many people: kids, mom, dad, siblings, and friends. You then have to properly manage this time, attention, care and worries between the people who matter for you, yourself, your work, everyday chores etc.
Your partner doesn’t just want to blend in your daily routine. He is your significant other and wants to see that. Although the other person completely understand and respects your choices, he/she would actually want to be the most important person in your life, even if they will never say it.
3. You are their no. 1
You are the first person the love of your life thinks about when he needs help, the one he wants to make happy, the one he first runs to, to celebrate success, the one who can always put a smile on his face, the one he chose to share his life with... his better half...
You are all of these things because your partner thinks you’re awesome. Loving you means loving the way you look and pretty much everything you do. Yeah, everyone has their own problems, but in your partner’s eyes, you are perfect with all your imperfections...and that’s why he loves you and makes you his no.1. You are the champion of his heart.
4. You make them feel complete
Your partner’s life was not as fulfilling when you were not a part of it. You brought in more joy, excitement, happiness and, above all you made him feel complete. The two of you are a team and you could never be as strong and successful independently as you are together.
5. You make them a better person
All relationships are supposed to make you grow on a personal level. Loving partner helps you become the best version of yourself. The simple fact that you believe and are supportive of your other half inspires him with incredible determination and power to do more and do better. He doesn’t want to let you down and that is why he puts in the effort.
6. They need your appreciation
You are his number 1, remember?! And that is why your opinion about your partner and your relationship matters most in this world. Appreciating a person and for every little thing they do for you will keep them motivated and striving to do better.
Critique is always demoralizing. Praise is scientifically proven to give better results.
7. They believe in you
You are the first person your partner turns to for help because the level of trust in you is complete. Trust in your judgment, trust in your support, in your loyalty, and trust in your feelings of love.
The love of your life believes you are that exceptional person who can change life for the better and that is why he loves you and stands by you.
8. You brighten their life
Sunshine and sunsets are more charming since you came into your partner’s life. Mornings are more cheerful. Evenings are warmer. Holidays are better. You filled their heart, made them feel complete and helped them become a better person. Yes, you brighten their life each and every day by your simple presence, kind words and affectionate smiles.
Teenage girl and boy argue. Girl points her finger at boy.
Arguing usually happens due to differing opinions between the couple. Hence, men must look for resolving the problem rather than stretching it, as that will only make it worse. Few mistakes men commonly make when arguing with their partner are:
1. Harsh Words – Usage of unkind words due to a feud, and you’re speaking continuously would make anyone mad at you or make her feel bad about her taste in men.
2. Bad Temper – Yelling is the worst mistake to do during an argument. Guys lose their temper and start shouting to the highest voice pitch. A girl might get scared or just don’t want to be with someone, who has such a behavior.
3. Bringing The Past – Oh, men never bring past issues or relations into the fight. That’s just not fair, everyone has their past good or bad and bringing up into the present will only make your girl upset and sad. Also she, maybe be, apprehensive in the future to share her experiences with you.
4. Online Fight – Men arguing about things online, simply leads to confusion and misunderstanding because of the absent expressions and tones.
5. Verbal Abuse –There are times, guys lose control once they start arguing to win over the argument and in that they just uses swear words which is definitely offensive to girls.
6. Argument in Public – Men uses sarcasm or direct verbal attacks on your partner in front of your friends, family or strangers makes a woman feel bad and a laughing-stock.
7. Hurling – When guys are not able to have a win situation they anger rises to a level where they start throwing things in a rage. There is a possibility that it might hurt your partner too.
8. Complain – This is quite common that during an argument men become a complain box and pick up on delicate topics, which surely shatters the woman. If a man has a problem with the spouse, find a right time for it.
9. Madcap – Guys lost their control over emotions and become impulsive during the verbal fights. It is a human behavior to lose temper, but must keep self control to overpower it.
10. Leave In Rage – Men feels pissed to argue over a subject so they feel the easy solution to it is to walk over an argument in a huff. It is a gaffe because your partner would feel that you do not care anymore.
11. Blame Game – It is very common that beau puts blame on their partner that it is all her fault, without even giving her a benefit of the doubt.
12. Triggering Her Button – Men bring their spouse’s family or friends in between. During a spat, criticizing her dear ones will end up your relationship in ashes. Also, you will lose respect in her eyes.
13. Physical Abuse – In anger, men have a habit to put force such as pushing, grabbing, shoving, etc. on their lover, which is absolutely unacceptable.
They are so amazing photographs of the three daughters which decorated by an IT Director. They are a bit funny and wonder look because some parts of the photos we don’t understand the meaning. The fist nice photo design is a little girl trying too hard to pool out a big tree with her all energy presenting
her serious face and two big rabbit teeth. Another one we can see a photo of two little girls, one girl is smiling with her hand holding a big staple left another small girl crying behind whether she’s standing or laying down on the ground. This is a wonderful photo of a man holding his bicycle with his two small daughters under the bad weather signing a big rainfall soon, but the man and the two little girls smiling, particularly the back one who is holding some flowers. This photo is really put a great wonder for most people to see a pregnant woman with her two little daughters in a bicycle repairing room. The two girls are trying to push air into their mother’s big belly. This one is a so cute photo of a baby equipped with a big headphone listening to romantic music. Another wonder photo is an astronaut holding legs of a baby laying on a small table in a room but we are not sure it is in space or somewhere else. It is rather funny that a little girl dare to hold some flowers in front of a wild big creature but that giant seem feel good to the girl and accept the flowers from her. This one is too serious, two little girls in the experiment room, one of their hands are holding the fireplace controller with strong fire burning out. The last one is two parts of the same photo but one part a lady is feeding a baby properly in a simple room and another part the lady feeding the baby equipped with astronaut material on her head that looks like it is in the space food store.
A 44 year old IT Director John Wilhelm is a very creative father of 3 daughters. He has created many cool photograph manipulations for his family- although, it doesn’t look so real but it looks they had so much fun. By looking at the pictures below, you will see his wife and the 3 beautiful daughters would be his perfect stars of all.
3 COOL LITTLE DAUGHTERS PHOTOGRAPHS BY JOHN WILHELM
3 COOL LITTLE DAUGHTERS PHOTOGRAPHS BY JOHN WILHELM
The words "I love you" cannot express their deep meaning. Though the message they send can be reassuring, the emotion, the longing, the thrill, and the passion it comes with, goes far beyond words.
Expressing one’s feelings is neither easy, nor accurate in most of the cases. Feelings can be overwhelming, indecipherable, changing and confusing.
They can be of many kinds — both positive and negative — but one is always lingering in your partner’s heart... yes, it is the overwhelming love for you — the driving force that keeps him around you when you’re happy or sad, when you’re healthy or ill, when you’re up or down...
And when the roles reverse and your partner is the one that’s sad or ill or down, you’re still there in his heart, the best place you could ever be in.
And yes, your partner wants you to know that even when you fight and are angry at each other. Arguments and fights happen only because both of you CARE. If no one cared, no one would ever fight.
2. They want to come first
Life comes with a full to-do list and many variables. You have to make time for many people: kids, mom, dad, siblings, and friends. You then have to properly manage this time, attention, care and worries between the people who matter for you, yourself, your work, everyday chores etc.
Your partner doesn’t just want to blend in your daily routine. He is your significant other and wants to see that. Although the other person completely understand and respects your choices, he/she would actually want to be the most important person in your life, even if they will never say it.
3. You are their no. 1
You are the first person the love of your life thinks about when he needs help, the one he wants to make happy, the one he first runs to, to celebrate success, the one who can always put a smile on his face, the one he chose to share his life with... his better half...
You are all of these things because your partner thinks you’re awesome. Loving you means loving the way you look and pretty much everything you do. Yeah, everyone has their own problems, but in your partner’s eyes, you are perfect with all your imperfections...and that’s why he loves you and makes you his no.1. You are the champion of his heart.
4. You make them feel complete
Your partner’s life was not as fulfilling when you were not a part of it. You brought in more joy, excitement, happiness and, above all you made him feel complete. The two of you are a team and you could never be as strong and successful independently as you are together.
5. You make them a better person
All relationships are supposed to make you grow on a personal level. Loving partner helps you become the best version of yourself. The simple fact that you believe and are supportive of your other half inspires him with incredible determination and power to do more and do better. He doesn’t want to let you down and that is why he puts in the effort.
6. They need your appreciation
You are his number 1, remember?! And that is why your opinion about your partner and your relationship matters most in this world. Appreciating a person and for every little thing they do for you will keep them motivated and striving to do better.
Critique is always demoralizing. Praise is scientifically proven to give better results.
7. They believe in you
You are the first person your partner turns to for help because the level of trust in you is complete. Trust in your judgment, trust in your support, in your loyalty, and trust in your feelings of love.
The love of your life believes you are that exceptional person who can change life for the better and that is why he loves you and stands by you.
8. You brighten their life
Sunshine and sunsets are more charming since you came into your partner’s life. Mornings are more cheerful. Evenings are warmer. Holidays are better. You filled their heart, made them feel complete and helped them become a better person. Yes, you brighten their life each and every day by your simple presence, kind words and affectionate smiles.
Although most if not all of the times the love of your life will never tell you these things, take note and remember that they actually feel this way.
According to many, the lines on the palms talk about our character and destiny. But those who have the letter M on the palm, is said to be special.
It is said that these people are especially gifted possess great intuition and are excellent partners for any business.
If your loved one has the letter M on the palm, you must know one thing – no joke, no lies and no fraud with them.
They will always find that you lie them or cheat.
Women who has letter M on the palm, have stronger intuition than men, and if both spouses have still prevails woman.
These people have the power to make the changes they need in life and therefore need to seize the opportunities in life.
According to folk tradition all the prophets ever had this sign on their palm, and if you are part of the people who have the palm point M, know that you are really a special person.
Colon cancer is one of the most dangerous and hard to cure cancers that also create additional complications. According to N. Cancer Institute, more than 1.16 million people suffered from this sickness in the USA in 2013.
Nature has again provided a cure for this deadly condition, like in many other similar cases, through the delicacy fruit named jackfruit. This fruit grows in hot tropical areas in the world and people from these parts use it to prepare many kinds of recipes.
Jackfruit is believed to be a strong cancer killer. This fruit is rich with nutrients such as isoflavones, lignans, phytonutrients and saponins that benefit the health and are able to fight cancer.
These nutrients prevent the flow of free radicals that are the main cause for cancer and other chronic sickness.
PHYTONUTRIENTS
Phytonutrients prevent the creation of the cancer cell in its first stage. The jackfruit can cure a person who suffers from belly ulcers and remarkably improves his/her health condition. There are thousands of the phytonutrients discovered and recognized by scientists that have the capability to provide remarkable benefits to overall health. Phytonutrients originate from food based on plants.
SAPONINS
The saponins are very important and strong colon cancer killers. A research has discovered that these phytonutrients caused mitotic arrest. In the condition of the leukemia cells. The research also showed that it is useful for various cases in creating remission. Saponins attack the outer layers of the cancer cells, by linking them and stopping them from growing further.
LIGNANS AND ISOFLAVONES
Isoflavones and Lignansbelong to phytoestrogens. They are attached on the receptors of estrogens. These nutrients are believed to be able to lower the risk of the endometrial cancer. In 2006, the N. Cancer Institute published a research that covered about 500 women that were chosen random. According to the research, the group of women that consumed largest levels of isoflavones leaves and the lignans from the jackfruit showed lower cancer rates than the ones in control group.
PROTECTION OF CELLULAR DNA
The jackfruit is also rich with antioxidants that are important for protecting the cellular DNA from the potential damage that could be caused by free oxygen radicals. And it is also successful in fighting already created mutations. Therefor the anti-cancer benefits of jackfruit do not stop here. The value of this fruit is enormous. It lowers the risk of colon cancer and is fiber rich. It is an incredible colon cleanser and also cleanses the digestive tract from toxins.
STRENGTHENING THE IMMUNE SYSTEM
Jackfruit is rich with vitamin C and with simple sugars that are important for strengthening the immune system in humans. A research was performed on mice that involved an analysis of influence of sugars that exist in the pulp of jackfruit on immunity. The results of the research showed that jackfruit consisted of polysaccharides that help improve the function of the phagocytic cell, which is part of the immune system. See below the nutritional value.
NUTRITIONAL VALUE OF JACKFRUIT
For lowering the risk of colorectal cancer and improving the digestive system, jackfruit is the number one fruit. 1 cup jackfruit has 155 calories and just 4 calories from the fat The fruit has minimal quantities of saturated fats, cholesterol and also sodium. It is rich with vitamin A, vitamin C, folate, niacin, thiamine and riboflavin. It is rich with minerals such as potassium, zinc, magnesium, iron, calcium, manganese, copper, selenium and phosphorus. Contains simple sugars that are exceptional for human health Only one cup jackfruit provides more than 11% of daily fiber that your body needs. This fruit is so delicious that it is almost impossible to satisfy your taste buds with just one cup, once you start consuming it. In China, jackfruit is also able to reduce the negative effects caused by alcohol.
